When we think about the idea of “Let them Miss You,” it’s easy to assume it’s about creating physical distance or playing hard to get. But it’s much deeper than that—it’s about energy. After a breakup, it’s natural to find yourself consumed by thoughts of your former partner: What are they thinking? Do they miss me? Did I matter to them?

This kind of thinking doesn’t just fill your mind; it drains your energy. Every time you focus on them—on their actions, their words, or their attention—you’re tethering yourself to their energy. The more energy you give to those thoughts, the more disconnected you feel from yourself, leaving you drained, powerless, and stuck in a cycle of longing and chasing.

Energy flows where your attention goes. Whether you’re focusing on their absence, your pain, or the desire for their validation, you’re sending your energy outward. The more you give, the less you have for yourself, creating an energy leak that leaves you feeling depleted. Over time, this turns into dependence—on their words, actions, or attention—to feel valued.

The truth is, your worth doesn’t come from anyone else. It is already within you. But to reclaim it, you must shift your energy inward and begin a journey back to yourself. Instead of scattering your energy outward, redirect it into your own growth, your own healing, and your own power.

This is what I experienced in meditation. Turning away from the person I had been chasing was hard. It felt like letting go of a part of myself. But as I began walking my own path, I felt something incredible: presence. I was no longer worried about the distance growing between us or consumed by the need for their attention. Instead, I became engulfed in my own journey.

As I continued down this path, something beautiful happened. New energy emerged—joy, excitement, and curiosity about where I was going. Friends began to join me, walking alongside me, sharing laughter and lighthearted conversations. I realized I wasn’t alone, nor was I lonely. I was surrounded by connection, not because I was chasing it, but because I was immersed in my own journey.

And here’s the most surprising part: in this meditation, I saw my ex turn and begin walking in the same direction. But by then, it no longer mattered. My focus was on my path, my growth, and my joy. The energy I had once poured into chasing someone else now fueled my own transformation.

This meditation taught me something profound: when you let go of chasing and begin to fully embrace your own path, you become magnetic. People get curious. They sense your joy, your confidence, and your self-assurance. They want to know what you’re doing, why you’re so at peace.

The beauty of this journey is that it’s not about shutting others out or manipulating outcomes. It’s about reclaiming your energy, directing it inward, and creating a life that aligns with your highest self. When you stop seeking validation from others and start giving yourself the love and attention you need, you shift your energy. And when you align your thoughts, intentions, and emotions with the vision of who you want to become, the universe responds in kind.

This is the essence of Journey to Healing: Channeled and Guided by Mary Magdalene, a 30-day course designed to guide you back to your own path—your power, your joy, and your truth.

This course is for anyone who feels stuck in the cycle of longing, chasing, and giving their energy away. It’s not just about healing from a breakup—it’s about transformation. It’s about stepping away from the noise of seeking validation and turning inward to the love, worth, and wholeness that already exists within you.

Using The Method of Stillness, a meditation practice shared in this course, you’ll learn to redirect your energy inward, creating a profound shift in how you experience yourself and your life. As you align with your highest self, you’ll find that the joy, connection, and love you’ve been searching for naturally emerge—not from chasing, but from simply being.

This journey is deeply personal, yet powerfully universal. I’ve walked this path, and it’s my honor to walk alongside you now. Together, we’ll take the first step toward a life of healing, wholeness, and a love that begins and ends with you.

Take the leap into your transformation. The path is waiting—and so are you. Learn more at shellecrow.com/still-the-pain-course.