Dismissive Avoidants often flee from the warmth of intimacy, believing themselves unworthy of love, convinced that their flaws will one day be discovered and repel their partners. They leave before the heart can fully tether, abruptly retreating to shield themselves from anticipated pain of rejection.

Instead of spiraling into self-doubt, questioning my worth, I discovered a profound truth: his departure was not a reflection of my value. I offered love as an open book, communicating with clarity and grace, holding boundaries firm yet gentle. His choice to leave stemmed from his own fears, self-rejection that had nothing to do with me.

Through this experience, I realized the importance of self-validation. The quest for approval from others is a never-ending journey; no amount of flattery can fill the void of self-doubt. We must look inward, embracing our worth, and learn to love every facet of ourselves—the imperfections, the missteps, as well as the qualities we cherish.

Georgia O’Keeffe once said, “I’ve already settled it for myself so flattery and criticism go down the same drain and I am quite free.”

The true gift of this relationship was coming to the awareness of my own self-worth. Though the end stung, I remained anchored in my sense of self.

If you find yourself grappling with self-acceptance, feeling adrift when love wanes, I invite you to embark on a journey toward your liberation. I’ve crafted a course titled Still the Pain: Journey to Healing, a labor of love designed to uproot the patterns and subconscious programming that hinder your ability to embrace and love yourself fully. Together, we will dismantle limiting beliefs, restore your inherent worth, and reconnect with the divine love that dwells within you.

Visit shellecrow.com/still-the-pain-course to get started. 

May you feel Joy.

May you Dance.

May you Sing.

Love Shelle Crow